Q: What women examples are in the Qur'an?
A: Allah gave an example of those who disbelieved the wife of Noah* and the wife of Lut**; They were under two servants from Our righteous servants so they betrayed them; So they availed (be of use) them nothing from Allah and it was said: Enter both of you Hell with the entering people; And Allah gave an example of those who believed the woman of Pharaoh (Phiroun) when she said: My God! Build for me near you a house in Paradise and save me from Pharaoh (Phiroun) and his work and save me from the tyrannical peoplel; And Mary (Maryam) daughter of Imran who guarded her vulva (female opening) so We blew in it from Our Spirit (Gabriel = Jibreel)*** and she believed as truth, in the words of her God and His Books and she was from the devoutly obedient to Allah.
Translation of: Ayat 10 - 12, Surat AlTahreem. (66:10-12)
* wife of Noah used to tell people that Noah was a mad person.
** wife of Lut used to tell about the male guests to their house to invite men's adultry with them.
*** Angel Gabriel blew in Mary through the pocket of her gown.
Words: Dharaba Masthal = Gave an example, Imr'at = Woman - Wife (remember in Pharoh's time men could marry their sisters), Abd = Servant, Khanat = Betrayed, Yughni = Avails - Be of use, Udkhul = Admit, Imra'at = Woman - Wife, Najini = Save me, Ahsanat = Guarded, Faraj = Vulva - Female Opening, Nafakha = Blew, Rooh = Spirit (Gabriel), Saddaqat = Believed as truth, Kalimaat = Words, Qaanit = Devoutly obedient - Obedient humbly.
Q: Is it allowed for married men to have sex with their women at the time of their menstruation (period)?
A: And they ask you (Prophet Muhammad) about menstruation - say it is harmful so isolate yourselves from the women during menstruation (avoid woman's vagina) and do not approach them (in this specific place) until they become cleansed so when they become cleansed you come upon them (intercourse) from where Allah has commanded you (women's vagina not anus) indeed Allah likes those who repent and He likes those who cleanse themselves.
Translation of: Ayah 222, Surat AlBaqarah. (2:222)
Note: In a summary of a saying by the Prophet Muhammad: On the Day of Judgment Allah will not look at a man who has sex with his wife in the anus.
Words: Yasal = Ask, Maheedh = Menstration place, Atha = Harmful, I'tazel = Stay away Taqrab = Approach, Yat'tahir = Become cleased, Atou = Make love - Approach, Amara = commanded, Tawwabeen = Those who repents, Mutatahireen = Who cleanse themselves - purify.
Q: Why had Allah made men caretakers of women?
Note: Remember the Qur'an is from Allah not man-made.
A: Men are caretakers of women* because of what Allah favoured some of them (men with physical strength) above the others (women); And because what they had spent from their money (dowry etc.);** So the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah want them to guard***; And those you fear their arrogant disobedience then advise them and (if they do not listen) abandon them in beds and (if they do not listen) beat them**** so if they (women) obey you then do not transgress against them in any way for Allah is Exalted, The Most High. And if you fear a breach between them then send a judge from his family and a judge from her family: If they want a reconciliation Allah will grant success between them for Allah is All-Knowledgeable, All-Expert.
Translation of: Ayat 34 - 35, Surat AlNisa'.
* Women have the protection of men.
** In Islam husbands have to spend from their money on their wives and on the whole household. The wives spend only voluntarily from their money.
*** Their chastity and property, reputation...etc. of their husbands.
**** According to a direction from the Prophet Muhammad the beating should not cause body harm like not to hit the face. (It is the last step to make the things up between husband and wife without interference from others).
Words: Rijal = Men, Qawwam = Caretaker - Protector, Faddala = Favoured, Nisa' = Women, Ba'dh ala Ba'dh = Some above the others, Anfaqa = Spent, Salihat = Righteous women, Qanitat = Devoutly obedient, Hafidhat Lilgayb = Guarding in absence, Noshouz = Arrogant disobedience, Idhou = Advise, Ata'na = Obeyed, Sabeel = Way, Khifta = You feared, Shiqaq = Breach - Discord, Eb'es(th) = Send, Hakam = Judge, Ahl = Family, Islah = Reconciliation, Yuwafiq = Grants success.
Q: How is Mary (Maryam) the mother of Jesus defended in the Qur'an?
A: And because of their (a group of Jews) disbelieving (in Allah) and their utterance against Mary (Maryam) a grave false accusation (of unchastity). --- and We (Allah) had prepared for the disbelievers among them a severe punishment (on Day of Judgment).
Translation of: Ayat 156, 161, Surat AlNisa'.
* In a summary of a saying of the Prophet Muhammad: Many men reached the level of religious perfection. Yet among the women four reached such level. The Prophet took a stick and made four lines on the ground and said: Maryam Bint Imran (Mary the mother of Jesus), Khadija Bint Khuwailad (the first wife of the Prophet Muhammad), Fatimah Bint Muhammad (the daughter of Prophet Muhammad) and Asya Bint Muzahim (the woman of Pharaoh = Phiroun). Source: Dr. Tareq Suwaidan's "Stories of the Prophets. CD no. 16." Dr. Tareq further points to the power of good care and good rearing up that made the four women very special. Maryam raised Jesus, Khadija supported the Prophet Muhammad, Fatima was reared up by the Prophet Muhammad and Khadija, and Asya raised Moses peace be upon the Prophets and may Allah be pleased with their beloved family members.
Words: BiKufrihim = Because of their disbelieving - Because of their rejection of Faith, Qawl = Utterance, Buhtan = False accusation, Atheem = Grave - Very terrible.
Q: According to Allah is the status of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad the same as any other women?
A: O wives of the Prophet you are not like any other women if you protect yourselves by fearing Allah so do not be submissive in speech* lest the one who has sickness (psychological) in his heart should be moved with lust and say kind words; And settle in your houses** and do not display your charms like the displaying of the former Ignorance time (pre-Islam) and perform the prayer and give the prescribed charity and obey Allah and His prophet (Muhammad) - for Allah indeed wants to eliminate the bad acts from you - the People of the House (Prophet Muhammad's) and to purify you a complete purification; And memorize what is being recited in your houses from Allah's Lines (Qur'an) and Wisdom for Allah is the Most-Kind, the Well-Acquainted.
Translation of: Ayat 32 - 34, Surat AlAhzab. (33:32-34)
* Not to playfully soften the speech.
** Do not go out without a genuine reason. Talk with marriageable men (= not maharim) behind a veil or a partition.
Note: Remember: "--- and his (Prophet Muhammad's) wives are their (the faithful's) mothers" translation of line 6 in Chapter AlAhzab in the Qur'an. (The Prophet's respected wives followed Allah's commands for them. When the Prophet's respected wife "A'ishah" was accidentally left behind in a caravan trip, the Prophet's companion who was behind the caravan found her crouched and fully covered up in her black cloak to the extent that he thought of her as a black rock). Source: Shaikh Muhammad AlShareef's Friday sermon at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, 19 March 2010. Also A'ishah may Allah be pleased with her, after the Prophet Muhammad used to teach the Religion to even men with a partition between her and the men. Source: Shaikh Waleed Basyouni's "Obligation of following Sahabah's Methodology: Questions and answers."
Words: Nisa' = Wives - Women, Takhdu'na = Submissive - Complaisant, BilQawl = In speech, Maradh = Sickness, Qarna = Settle - Stay, Tabarrajna = Display your charms, Tabarruj = Displaying, Ate'na = Obey, Yuthhib AlRijs = Eliminate the bad acts, Yutahhir = Purify. Tattheer = Complete purification.
Q: According to Allah how are the wives of the Prophet Muhammad different from any other women?
A: O women of the Prophet whoever of you comes up with an evident sin punishment will be multiplied for her double and that is for Allah easy; And whoever of you submissively obeys Allah and His Prophet and does good acts We (Allah) will repay her reward twice and We had prepared for her generous sustenance (in Paradise).
Translation of: Ayat 30 - 31, Surat AlAhzab.
Words: Ya'ti = Comes up - Commits, Fahisha = Sin, Mubayenah = Evident, Yudha'af = Doubled, Yudha'af = Will be multiplied - Will be increased, Dhi'fayn = Double, Yaqnut = Submissively obeys, Saliha = Good acts, Ajr = Reward, Marratayn = Twice, Rizq = Sustenance, Kareem = Generous - Good.
Q: What type of life did the wives of the Prophet Muhammad were commanded by Allah to live?
Hint: Remember that Allah says that the Prophet's wives are different from any other women.
A: O Prophet (Muhammad) say to your wives if they want the life of this world and its attraction so come I supply you with adequate provision and I release (divorce) you with a kind release; But if you want Allah and His Prophet and the Other World so Allah had prepared for those who perfect their Faith* among you a great Reward.
Translation of: Ayat 28 - 29, Surat AlAhzab.
* As Allah commands them to have a special purified life as the "mothers of the faithful".
Note: Remember that the Prophet Muhammad had only one wife "Khadija" which was unusual then for a famous man like the Prophet. Only after her death when the Prophet was fifty years old the Prophet married other women - most of them were previously married. His marriages were out of compassion for suffering widows and/or to prepare religiously "the mothers of the faithful" as Allah calls the wives of the Prophet. They transferred the knowledge they heard from the Prophet. For example a lot of the Prophet's sayings that we have now are originally narrated by the Prophet's respected wife "A'ishah". Several of the Prophet's wives came from rich backgrounds but still they were giving whatever comes their way to charity in order to live as Allah commanded them.
Words: Zeenataha = Its physical attraction - Its charms - Its decoration, Umatte'akunna = Supply you with adequate provision, Usarrihkunna = I release you, Sarahhan Jameela = With a kind release, Turidna = You want, Muhsinat = (Females) Who perfect their Faith - Who do good acts, Ajr = Reward.
Q: Why were the Prophet Muhammad's wives commanded by Allah to live very restricted
A: (Allah says) O people who believed do not enter the houses of the Prophet (Muhammad) except when you are given permission for food not (so early) waiting for its preparation - but when you are invited then enter and when you have eaten then disperse (outside the house) without being intimate with a talk for such (behaviour) was annoying the Prophet but he feels shy of you and Allah is Not Shy of the Truth - and if you ask them for a provision then ask them from behind a screen (= hijab*) for that is more pure to your hearts and their (wives') hearts and you do not have the right to harm Allah's Messenger or ever to marry his widows after him for that is according to Allah a grave sin.
Translation of: Ayah 53, Surat AlAhzab. (33:53)
* According to the famous Quran translator "Abdullah Yusuf Ali" in The Holy Quran: English Translation of the Meanings and Commentary, page 1263:
The screen (= hijab) was a special feature of honour for the Prophet's household, introduced about five or six years before his death.
(Remember "Khimar" is mentioned in Ayah 31 in Surat AlNoor translated next)
Words: Tadkhul = Enter, Boyout = Houses, Yu'than = Given permission, Ta'am = Food, Ghayr = Not, Nadhir = Waithing, Intashir = Disperse - Spread - Go out, Hadeesth = Talk, Yu'thi = Harms, Yastahi = Be shy, Sa'ala = Ask, Mata'e = Provision - Something - Object, Hijab = Screen, Athar = More pure, Kuloub = Hearts, Azwaj = Widows - Wives, Ba'd = After, Abadan = Never - Ever, Adheem = Great (sin).
Q: Who commanded women to dress modestly and cover up their physical attraction?
Note: Women of pre-Islamic era in Arabia (known as the era of Ignorance) used to pass among men with visible cleavage (the depression between a woman's breasts) and different sorts of attractive behaviour. Some used to stamp their feet so that their anklets make sounds that attract men's attention. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volme 3, pages 415 - 416.
A: And (command to Prophet Muhammad) say to believing women to lower their gazes (to show modesty) and to guard their private places and not to reveal their physical attraction except what (ordinarily) appears* and let them draw their head-scarves (= Khumur**) over their bosoms (chests) and not to reveal their physical attraction except to their husbands, their fathers***, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons (from other marriages), their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their womenfolk, what they own (of slaves), and from the male attendants (servants) who are free of sexual desires (old or with mental or physical disorders) and the children (= AlTifl****) who have not gained knowledge about women's genitals - and let them not stamp their feet to make revealed what they are hiding of their physical attraction and turn to Allah in repentance, O believers so that you may achieve prosperity (from Allah).
Translation of: Ayah 31, Surat AlNoor. (24:31)
* In a summary of a saying of the Prophet Muhammad: When the female reaches puberty only the face (the Prophet circled his face) and the hands should be seen from her (= Inna AlMar'ah itha balaghat almaheedh lem yasluh an yura minh illa hatha, waashara ila wajhihi wakafayhi). Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volume 3, page 416. Also Sheikh Hassanain Muhammad Makhlouf, Egypt's ex-Mufti in "Safwat AlBayan LiM'ani AlQur'an", page 451 said: "the face, the hands and maybe the feet to drive away embarrassment and danger (= Dafe' AlHarj).
** 'Khimar' is the singular form and 'Kumur' is the plural. What is 'Khimar'?
*** A list of not marriageable men (= Mahaarim).
**** Otherwise women have to cover up (wear modest clothes) when children who are aware of women's genitals are around.
Note: In a summary of a saying of the Prophet Muhammad: Beware not to enter where women are alone. A man asked the Prophet: What about the relative of the husband such as his brother or his cousin (= AlHamou) the Prophet answered: AlHamou is death.
In a summary of a saying of the Prophet Muhammad: Do not be alone with a woman except when she is with her non marriageable man (= mahram). Source: Riyadh AlSaliheen Min Kalam Sayed AlMursaleen, page 451.
Words: Yagdhudhna Absaruhumnna = Lower their gaze - Turn away or aside their eyes, Yahfudhuna = Guard, Furoujuhunna = Their private places - Their vulvae, Yubdeena = Reveal, Zeenatahunna = Their physical attraction, Dhahara = Appears, Boulatihinna = Their husbands, Aba' = Fathers, Abna = Sons, Ikhwan = Brothers, Bani = Sons, Malakat Aymanuhunna = They own (of slaves), Tabe'een = Attendants - Servants, Gharyr = Free of, Uli AlIrbah = Free of sexual desires, AlTifl = The children, Lem Yadhharou = Have not gained knowledge - Are not aware, Awrat = Genitals - Nakedness, Ma Yukhfeena = What they are hiding, Tubou Ila Allah = Turn to Allah in repentance.
Q: Are breast milk banks allowed in Islam?
A: Forbidden to you ((in marriage) are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts, your maternal aunts, the brother's daughters, the sister's daughters and your (foster) mothers who breast fed you and your (foster) sisters from breastfeeding, and your mothers in law, your step-daughters, who are under your guardianship, from your wives with whom you had intercourse but if you did not have intercourse with them (marriage plans cancelled) then there is no blame on you, and the wives of your begotten sons and (forbidden) to join (in marriage) two sisters with the exception of what is past for Allah is Most-Forgiving, Most-Merciful.
Translation of: Ayah 23, Surat AlNisa'.
A Note: Babies who consume the milk of a woman become her foster children (by breastfeeding) although they are not related to her by birth. When they grow up they cannot get married to one another neither can they marry her biological children because they have become siblings (by breastfeeding) (= Ikhwah bilRida'ah). The Prophet Muhammad's birth mother was Aminah Bint Wahab and his foster-mother (by breastfeeding) was Halimah AlSa'adeyah and her children were the Prophet's foster siblings. AlShayma' pronounced as AshShayma' as the Prophet's foster sister is known in Islam.
Words: Hurrimat = Forbidden, Umahatukum = Your mothers, Banatukum = Your daughters, Akhwatukum = Your dauthers, Ammatukum = Your paternal aunts, Khaalatukum = Your maternal aunts, Allati Ardha'nakum = Who breast fed you, AlRadha'ah Breastfeeding, Raba'ibukum = Your step daughters, Hujourikum = Under your guardianship, Dakhaltum bihin = You had intercourse with them, Junaha = Blame, Halaail = Wives, Min Aslabikum = Your begotten, Tajma'ou = Join, Salaf = Past.
Q: Can hatred of women be considered a major sin like killing?
Note: Reference A recent fatwa (5 February 2012) considers "hatred of women" as a major sin.
A: O believers it is not lawful for you to inherit* women(after their husbands' death) forcibly - neither (lawful) to make it (life) difficult for them so as to get away with what (dowry) you gave them except when they commit obvious immorality** - and deal with them with kindness and if you hate them*** then you may hate something and Allah makes in it much good****.
Translation of: Ayah 19, Surat AlNisa'.
* In pre-Islamic era (= AlJahiliyyah) Arab men used to inherit the wives of their relatives when their husbands die. Such men used to prevent them from re-marrying other than whom they themselves decide. Or they used to take back the dowry from them for setting them free. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volume 1, page 652 - 653.
** Such as adultery. In this case you can force her to give you back your dowry and leave her. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volume 1, page 653.
*** If you hate them try to be patient.
**** You may have an offspring with much good from her. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, page 654
Words: La Yahil = It is not lawful, Taristhou = To inherit, Karhan = Forcibly, La Ta'dholouhunna = Do not make it difficult for them, Litathhabou = To get away, Ataytomouhunna = You gave them, Ya'teena BiFahishah = They commit immorality - They commit adultery, Ashirouhunna = Deal with them, BilMa'rouf = With kindness, Takrahou = You hate, Khayran = Good - Benefit.
Q: How much do divorced women have their rights in Islam?
A: And if you want (by divorcing) to replace a wife with another wife and you had given one of them a quintal* (of wealth) then do not take anything from it - if you take it (then) it is (considered) defaming** and a clear sin (= Isthman Mubeena).
Translation of: Ayah 20, Surat AlNisa'. (4:20)
* Source: wikipedia.org: The quintal or centner, from Latin centenarius ("hundredlike"), is a historical unit of mass in many countries which is usually defined as 100 base units of either pounds or kilograms.
** In pre-Islamic Arabia when men wanted to leave their wives and marry others they used to fabricate lies against them to defame them so that they give them back what wealth men gifted them as dowry. Source: AlSheikh Hassanain Muhammad Makhlouf, in Safwat AlBayan liMa'ani AlQur'an, in Arabic, page 111.
Words: Estibdala = To replace, Zawj Makana Zawj = A wife with another wife, Qintar = quital - Hundredweight, Buhtanan = Defaming - Falsehood, Isthm = Sin.
Q: Why should a husband not debase himself by asking for wealth given to his wife before divorcing her?
A: And how can you take it (wealth given to a wife) after each of you divulged private secrets to the other and they (women) took from you a solemn pledge (marriage vows).
Translation of: Ayah 21, Surat AlNisa'. (4:21)
Words: WaKayfa Takhothounahu = And how can you take it, Afdha = Divulged private secrtes, Akhathna = They took, Meesthaqan = Pledge - Contract, Ghaleedhan = Solemn.
Q: Why in Islam men cannot marry the wives of their immediate relatives - (fathers - brothers) who left their wives (either as widows or divorced
A: And do not enter into a marriage contract with women whom your fathers married except what had passed* for it was an obscenity, abominable** and an evil practice.
Translation of: Ayah 22, Surat AlNisa'. (4:22)
* In Pre-Islamic Arabia as in other nations men used to inherit the wives (other than their mothers) of their immediate relatives (fathers, brothers).
** Causing moral disgust.
Words: Qed Salafa = What was past, Maqtan = Abominable - Hated, Sa'a Sabeela = An evil practice - An evil way.
Q: Based on what do some scholars explain temporary marriage contract (= Zawaj AlMut'ah) which was allowed in Islam druing travel
circumstances is now unlawful (haram)(although it is still a controversial topic between Sunni Muslims (with some groups
of Shia) and Shia Muslims)?
Note: The translation of the preceding Line 23 in Surat AlNisa'.
A: (Also forbidden for you to marry) Women (kept chaste through marriage = Mussanat) who are already married except whom (being already married) you possess (captives of war) - it is ordained by Allah upon you and it is allowed for you what is beyond that* - to seek with your wealth (dowry) fortifying (purifying) yourself (against adultery = Muhssineen) and not committing adultery (= Musafiheen**) - so what you enjoyed of them then give them their dues (minimum dowry) as an obligatory duty and there is no blame upon you in what you (both) are pleased with in addition to the obligatory duty*** for Allah is All-Knowing All-Wise.
Translation of: Ayah 24, Surat AlNisa'. (4:24)
* (For example a man makes marriage vows with a woman then divorces her without sleeping with her. He can then marry her sister for example).
According to the Sunnah (Way) of the Prophet Muhammad it is also forbidden for a man to marry some other women for example both a woman and her aunt (sister of any father or mother). Source: AlSheikh Hassanain Muhammad Makhlouf, in Safwat AlBayan liMa'ani AlQur'an, in Arabic, page 112.
** According to AlSheikh Hassanain Muhammad Makhlouf: 'Muhssineen" is from the word 'AlHissn = The fortified place).
'Musafiheen' is from the verb "Safaha" and noun "Sifah" = Pouring out or spilling (sperm) only for enjoyment and never to have children and a family is usually in adultery . Source: Safwat AlBayan liMa'ani AlQur'an, in Arabic, pages 112-113).
*** Caliph Umar Bin AlKhattab wanted to promote the minimum dowry for women but a woman reminded him about the Ayah about the (Quintal of wealth = Qintar). So Umar said to people: Umar made a mistake and a woman said the correct thing. Source will be added insha Allah later.
Notes about "Temporary Marriage Contract (= Zawaj AlMut'ah): 'Zawaj AlMut'ah' was made halal during some travel circumstances.
For example in the War of AlAwtas (a valley in the land of Hozan south of Mecca after a month from the conquer of Mecca) "Zawaj AlMut'ah" was allowed (= halal).
In 'AlBukhari' and 'Muslim' well known Islamic heritage books: Ali Bin Abi Taleb, the prophet's respected son in law, said that Prophet Muhammad made 'Zawaj AlMu'tah' unlawful (= haram) and eating the meat of zebras in the War of Khaybar. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volume 1, page 666.
Then the Prophet Muhammad proclaimed it haram by saying: I told you it is halal but now it is made haram until the Day of Judgement. So whoever have any of them make them free and do not take anything from what you gave them. Source: Tafseer Ibn Kastheer, volume1, page 666.
Words: AlMuhssanat = Women who keep themsleves chaste - Women of unblemished reputation, Muhssineen = Purifying yourselves - Keeping yourselves chaste - Fortifying yourselves against adultery, Musafiheen = Committing adultery, Ujourahunna = Their dues, Fareedhatan = As an obligatory duty, Junaha = Blame - Sin, Min Ba'di = In addition to - Beyond.
Q: What should men who cannot find women to marry do?
A: And whoever is not possible for him to marry believing chaste free women (= AlMuhssanat) then from what you possess (captives - slaves during slavery times) from your believing girls and Allah knows about your belief - you (humanity) belong to each other so do marry them with the consent of their families and give them their dues (dowry) with kindness as chaste free women (through marriage) and not as adulteresses (= Musafihat*) neither as mistresses for lovers so if they became chaste free women (through marriage) then if they come up with immorality (= Fahishah*) then for them of punishment is half of what is for chaste free women - that (command) is for those of you (men) who fear committing a sin (adultery) and if you remain patient (when no marriage) it is better for you and Allah is Most-Forgiving Most-Merciful.
Translation of: Ayah 25, Surat AlNisa'. (4:25)
* Participants in "AlSifah" = "Musafihat" is feminine plural - a description of adulterous women (= Zaaniyat).
** Immoralities such as adultery and similar other forms that have to do with unlawful (= haram) nakedness.
Words: Yankih = Marry, Get into a marriage contract, AlMuhsanat = Chaste free women of unblemished reputation, Ba'dhukum Min Bu'dh = You belong to each other - You are one of the other, BiIthni = With the consent - Permission, Mutakhitati Akhdan = As mistresses for lovers, AlAnata = Committing a sin.
Q: What is an important condition in a polygamy marriage in Islam where a man can keep simultaneously up to four wives?
Note: Please read first the translation of the preceding Ayah 2 in Surat AlNisa'.
A: And if you (plural) fear that you are not going to do justice regarding the (female) orphans so marry whomever looks agreeable to you from the (orphan) women - two three and four* but if you fear that you are not going to treat them equally then only one or whomever you possess (captive or slave) that is closer to make you avoid bias (injustice).
Translation of:Ayah 3, Surat AlNisa'. (4:3)
* Maximum of wives for a Muslim.
Words: Khiftum Al la Tuqsitou = If you fear that you are not going to do justice, Ttaba = Looks agreeable - Looks suitable, Masthna = Two, Al la Ta'dilou = that you are not to treat them equally, Adna = Closer to, Alla Ta'oulu = You avoid bias, You avoid diverting from the Straight Path.
Q: What is the solution for an old Muslim woman depending financially upon her husband for example - who notices her husband may soon
A: And if a woman fears from her husband stubborn disobedience or abandonment then there is no blame on them (both) if a settlement* to mend the relationship is made between them and settlement is better (than divorce) and (during the process) souls have a natural disposition for misery (defending one's interests) but if you do good and protect yourselves (by fearing Allah) then Allah with what you do is Well-Aquainted.
Translation of: Ayah 128, Surat AlNisa'. (4:128)
* For example Prophet Muhammad wanted to divorce his wife "Soudah Bint Zam'ah" when she became of old age. But she wanted to be resurrected on the Day of Judgement with the Prophet's wives. So she made a settlement with the Prophet Muhammad to give her night for the Prophet's 'beloved' wife "A'ish" for return that the Prophet does not divorce her - the Prophet accepted. Source: Ibn Kastheer, volume 1, page 793.
Words: Nushouzan = Stubborn disobedience, Violation of marital duties, I'radhan = Abandonment, Uhdhirat = Have a natural disposition for, Is in their nature, AlSulh = Settlement, Khair = Better, AlShuhh = Stinginess - Avarice.
Q: What is difficult for any man who has more than one wife?
A: And you will not be able to treat wives equally* even if you try hard so do not turn away a complete turning so you leave her like the suspended** one and if you seek settlement*** and protect yourselves (by fearing Allah) then Allah is Most-Forgiving Most-Merciful.
Translation of: Ayah 129, Surat AlNisa'. (4:129)
* Especially in emotions such as love. Source: Tafseer waBayan Mufridat AlQuran, in Arabic, page 99.
** Neither married nor divorced.
*** Please refer to the translation above of the preceding Line (128) in Surat AlNisa'.
Note: If a man fears doing injustice among his wives then one wife only. (in Surat AlNisa', above - on this page)
Words: Len Tasta'teeu = You will not be able, Ta'dilou = Treat equally, KelMualaqah = Like the suspended one.
Q: What can happen if married life reaches a separation point?
A: And if they (married couple) get separated (divorced) Allah will suffice each (of them) from His (Allah's) Abundance (Bountifulness) and Allah is Lord of Abundance, All-Wise.
Translation of: Ayah 130, Surat AlNisa'. (4:130)
Words: Yatafarraqa = Get separated, Kullan = Each, S'atihi = His abundance - His Bountifulness.
Q: Why should a man who divorces his wife not send her out of the house for a known period of time?
A: O Messenger (Prophet Muhammad) when you (Muslims) divorce women then divorce them according to their legal prescribed period of waiting - and do enumerate the legal prescribed period of waiting (= AlIddah) - and protect yourselves by fearing Allah your God - do not send them out of their houses and they should not leave except if they commit a clear immorality (adultery) and those are Allah's Limits - and whoever transgresses Allah's Limits then he has wronged himself - you do not know Allah may bring about after that (waiting period) something (favorable).
Translation of: Ayah 1, Surat AlTalaq. (65:1)
* during which a woman may not remarry after being divorced. "AlIddah" is three months - (to see if she is pregnant).
Words: Tallaqtum = You divorce, Ahsou = Enumerate - Count, AlIddah = Legal prescribed period of waiting, Yateena BiFahishah = They commit immorality - obscenity - adultery, Dhalama = He wronged - He was unjust, Yuhdesth = Brings about - Causes to happen, Amra = Something - A matter - An affair.
Q: What are Allah's Limits about the divorced women's "Iddah" = Legal prescribed period of waiting during which a woman may not
remarry after being divorced?
A: And those who ceased menstruation (reached menopause) from your women if you have doubts then their legal prescribed period of waiting (= Iddatihina) is three months and those who have not (yet) menstruated* - and those who are pregnant - their (waiting) period is delivering their burden (babies) and whoever protects himself by fearing Allah He (Allah) will make his matter easy for him.
Translation of: Ayah 4, Surat AlTalaq. (65:4)
* Usually very young females. (Some Muslim women in previous times got legally married before their menstruation start. After the start of their menstruation they joined their husbands)
Words: Ya'isna = Ceased, AlMaheedh = Menstruation, Ulat ulAhmal = Those who are pregnant, Yaj'al Lahu Min Amrihi Yusra = Makes his matter easy for him.
Q: What is the guaranteed reward for the Muslim who follows Allah's command about divorce - out of fear of Allah?
A: That (command about divorce) is the Command of Allah - He sent it down to you (Muslims) and whoever protects himself by fearing Allah He will remove his bad deeds and makes greater his reward.
Translation of: Ayah 5, Surat AlTalaq. (65:5)
Words: Yattaqi Allah = Protects himself by fearing Allah - Is mindful of Allah, Yukaffir = Removes, Yuadhim Lahu Ajra = Makes greater his reward.
Q: What is Allah's Command regarding the legal prescribed waiting time (= AlIddah) of the divorced woman?
A: House them (during "AlIddah") according to where you (both) lived* according to your (financial) capability and do no harm them to make it difficult for them and if they were pregnant so do spend on them until they deliver their burden (babies) - then if they breastfeed (your babies) for you (plural) then give them their wages and seek consultation among (both of) you with kindness and if it became very difficult (solution) for you (plural) then another one will breastfeed (his baby) for him.
Translation of: Ayah 6, Surat AlTalaq. (65:6)
* Same standard of living.
Words: Askinouhunna = House them, Min Haysthu = According to, Min Wujdikum = According to your capability, LiTudhayyeqo Alayhinna = To make it difficult for them, We'Tamirou = See consultation, MiMa'rouf = With kindness, TaAsartum = It became very difficult for you, FaSaTurdhe' Ukhra = Then another one will breasfeed.
Q: How much money should the man spend on his divorced wife when she is in the legal prescribed waiting time "AlIddah"?
A: Let the one with abundance of wealth spend according to his capability and whose sustenance (provision) is limited then let him spend from what Allah gave him - Allah does not burden a soul except according to what Allah gave it - Allah will make after difficulty (bad times) ease (good times).
Translation of: Ayah 7, Surat AlTalaq. (65:7)
Words: Thou Sa'atin = One with abdunace of wealth - Wealthy one, Min Sa'atihi = According to his capability, Qudira = Is limited - Is restricted, Ba'da Usrin = After difficulty - After bad times, Yusra = Ease - Good times.
Q: Why should married couples observe Allah's Commands in their sexual acts?
Note: In Isalm intercourse during woman's menstruation time is forbidden. Also is forbidden intercourse through the anus. (Refer to the preceding Line 222 n Surat AlBaqarah)
A: Your women (wives) are a place of cultivation (prepared for pregnancy) for you so come unto your place of cultivation whenever you wish (day or night) and send forth (good deeds) for yourselves and protect yourselves (by fearing Allah) and let it be known to you that indeed you are going to meet Him (on the Day of Judgement) and (command to Prophet Muhammad) give the good news (of Paradise) to the believers.
Translation of: Ayah 223, Surat AlBaqarah. (2:223)
Words: Harsthun = Place of cultivation - Tilth, FaAtou = So come unto - So draw closer, Anna = Whenever, Qaddimou LiAnfusikum = Send forth for yourselves, Mulaqouhu = You are going to mmet Him, Bashshir = Give the good news.
Q: Why should a Muslim try to settle immediately any injustice he did to anyone?
A: Allah had heard the saying of the one (woman) who was arguing with you about her husband and she was complaining to Allah and Allah was listening to the cnversation of both of you indeed Allah is All-Hearing All-Seeing.
Translation of: Ayah 1, Surat AlMujadilah (58:1)
Words: Tujadiluka = Was arguing with you - Was debating with you, Tashtaki = She was complaining, Taworakuma = The conversation of both of you.
Q: Why should a Muslim watch his words when divorcing his wife?
A: Those who utter "Dhihar"* (= pre-Islamic divorce words) to their wives (Allah says) they (wives) are NOT their mothers for their mothers are the ones who gave birth to them and indeed they (such men) are certainly saying abominable (hateful) words and falsehood and indeed Allah certainly is Willingly Most-Pardoning Most-Forgiving.
Translation of: Ayah 2, Surat AlMujadilah (58:2)
* "Dhihar" Pre-Islamic form of divorce consisting in the words of repudiation: you are to me like my mother's back = Anti Alayya ka-Dhahri Ummi. Source: Wehr, Hans Wehr's "A Dictionary of Modern Written Arabic".
Note: The immediate occasion was that "Aus son of Samit" though in Islam divorced his wife "Khawla Bint Tha'laba" by a Pagan custom. Such a custom was degrading to a woman. It was particularly hard on Khawla, for she loved her husband and pleaded that she had little children whom she had no resources herself to support. She urged her plea to the prophet and in prayer to Allah. Her just plea was accepted and this iniquitous custom, based on false words, was abolished. Source: The Holy Qur'an: English translation, based on the translation of Abdullah Yusuf Ali, page 1703.
Words: Yudhaihrouna = utter Dhihar - Utter pre-Islamic divorce, Munkaran = Abominable - Detestable - Most unpleasant, Min AlQawl = Words, Zoura = Falsehood, LaAfou = Certainly is Willingly Most-Pardoning.
Q: How was Dhihar - the abominable way of divorcing women abolished through Allah's interactive Command with the community?
Or : How did Allah make "Dhihar" - the abominable way of divorcing women a very difficult task so Muslims just left it?
A: And those who utter "Dhihar" (= pre-Islamic divorce words) to their wives then they go back on what they have said then (its atonement is) freeing a slave* before they both touch each other such is what you are being advised of and Allah with what you do is All-Expert; But whoever does not find (slave) then fasting of two consecutive months before they touch each other and whoever is not capable then feeding of sixty poor persons - that is so that you believe in Allah and His Messenger (Prophet Muhammad) and those are the Limits of Allah and for the disbelievers is a painful punishment.
Translation of: Ayat 3 - 4, Surat AlMujadilah (58:3-4)
* First option. If not second option. If not then the last option for the weakest.
Words: Yaowdouna = They go back on - They fail to honor, FaTarhreer Raqabah = then freeing a slave, Yatamasa = Touch each other, Thalikum = Such is - Previously said is, Tuadhouna Bihi = You are being advised about, Aleem = Painful - Severe.
Q: Why should persons beware of accusing of adultery especially believing females who are even unaware of such actions?
A: Indeed those who accuse (of adultery) unaware believing chaste free women are cursed* in this life and the Other Life and for them is a great punishment (in the Other World**).
Translation of: Ayah 23, Surat AlNoor. (24:23)
* Become away from Allah's Mercy.
** Refer to the translation of the succeeding Ayah 24 in Surat AlNoor.
Words: Yarmouna = Accuse of adultery, AlMuhsanat = Chaste free women.
Q: What appearance is the best for women in front of their unmarriageable men (= Mahram, plural Mahaarim)?
A: And the elderly women who are not interested in getting married then there is no blame on them if they lay down their (outer) clothes without displaying any charm (beauty) and if they show modesty (be chaste) that is better for them and Allah is All-Listening All-Knowing.
Translation of: Ayah 60, Surat AlNoor. (24:60)
Words: AlQawaaid = The elderly, Yadhana = Lay down, Sthiyabahunna = Their clothes, Ghayr Mutabarijatin = Without displaying, BiZinatin = Any charm - Any beauty - Any decoration, Yasta'fifna = Show modesty - Be chaste.
Q: How were the wives of Prophet Muhammad prepared to be 'mothers*' of the believers?
* Refer to the translation of Ayah 6 in Surat AlAhzab.
A: O Prophet (Prophet Muhammad) tell your wives if you are seeking the life of this world and its decoration then come I will provide for you temporary enjoyment (divorce payment*) and release you (divorce) in a good releasing manner.
Translation of: Ayah 28, Surat AlAhzab. (33:28)
* Refer to Ayah 236 in Surat AlBaqarah. (Source: Safwat AlBayan liMa'ani AlQuran AlUstath AlSheikh Hassanain, in Arabic page 530).
Words: Kuntun Turidna = You are seeking - wanting, Zeenataha = Its decoration - Its superficial enjoyment stuff, Umatte'kunna = I will provide for you temporary enjoyment, Sarahan Jameelan = In a good releasing manner.
Q: What was the reward for the wives of Prophet Muhammad for abiding by Allah's Commands which prepared them to be mothers of the believers?
A: It is not lawful for you (Prophet Muhammad) (other) women (to marry) after that neither to replace them (the wives) with (other) wives even if their beauty appeals to you except what you own* and Allah upon everything is Watchful.
Translation of: Ayah 52, Surat AlAhzab. (33:52)
* After his wives Prophet Muhammad did not marry except the handmaiden Mary the Copt who was sent as a present by the Christian Muqauqas of Egypt. She became mother of Ibrahim who died in infancy. Source: The Holy Quran: English Translation of the Meanings and Commentary. Based on the translation of Abdullah Yusuf Ali, Page 1261.
Words: La Yahilu = It is not lawful, Tabaddala = Replace, Azwaj = Wives, Malakat Yameenuka = You own - Your hand owns.
Q: What was the criteria for Prophet Muhammad's wives for getting Allah's (special) Great Reward?
,strong>Note: Please read first the translation of the preceding Line above 28 in Surat AlAhzab.
A: And if you (Prophet's wives) are seeking Allah and His Messenger and the Other World then Allah had prepared for those who perfect* their Religion among you a supreme reward.
Translation of: Ayah 29, Surat AlAhzab. (33:29)
* Muhsinat = Those who perfect their Religion. Remember "Ihsan" is a higher stage for a Muslim. (Refer to Islamic Creed)
Words: In Kuntuna Turidna = If you are seeking, LilMuhsinat = For those who perfect their Religion, Ajran = Reward, Adheema = Supreme.
Q: How were the wives of Prophet Muhammad different from other women even if they were to commit any immorality?
A: O (= Ya*) women (wives) of the Prophet (Prophet Muhammad) whoever among you commits a clear immorality the punishment (from Allah) will be made double for her and that is easy for Allah.
Translation of: Ayah 30, Surat AlAhzab. (33:30)
* Beginning with ('Ya = O') remember that it is Allah's Word warning the wives of Prophet Muhammad.
A Side Note about using 'Ya with Prophet Muhammad': Nowadays (April 2016) Some Muslims among those who call themselves 'Sunni' in Pakistan are quarreling with other some other Muslims. The reason? The first group uses "Ya Muhammad" while the other group say this is 'shirk = joining partner with Allah'.
Refer to Wikipedia about the use of 'Ya' by different groups of Muslims.
What does Allah say in the Qur'an about if Prophet Muhammad is alive or dead? (Remember when in front of Allah's Word no word is superior to it). Refer to Ayat 30 - 31 in Surat AlZumar.
Also note about extending Salam on Prophet Muhammad: Muslims are supposed to send Allah's Blessings and Salam on Prophet Muhammad. (in Surat AlAhzab)
Note: In a summary of three sayings of the Prophet Muhammad about Allah giving the Prophet his soul (temporarily) to answer back the Salam greeting.
Please do not be among those who are misled and do not mislead. And may Allah guide us all to His Straight Path.
Words: Fahisha = Immorality, Dhi'fayn = Double.
Q: A woman who gets married and then divorced before sleeping with her husband - does she have legally to wait (= Iddah) before remarrying another man?
A: O those who believed if you marry believers and then divorce them without touching (sleeping with) them then for you there is no waiting time (iddah) you expect counting from them so provide for them temporary enjoyment* (divorce payment) and release them in a good releasing manner.
Translation of: Ayah 49, Surat AlAhzab. (33:49)
* "= FaMate'ouhunna". Provide for them some necessities of life to maintain. (refer to Surat AlBaqarah)
Words: Iddatin = Waiting time, Ta'tadounah = You expect counting, FaMate'ouhunna = So provide for them temporary enjoyment (divorce payment).
Q: What was the list* of persons in front of whom the wives of Prophet Muhammad could appear without veil** (= hijab)?
Note: Please read first the translation of Ayah 53 in Surat AlAhzab concerning the Hijab (Veil) of Prophet Muhammad's wives.
A: There is no blame on them (Prophet Muhammad's wives) (without veil) in (front of) their fathers nor their sons nor their brothers or the sons of their brothers or the sons or their sisters nor their women (maids) neither what (slaves) they owned and do protect yourselves by fearing Allah indeed Allah upon everything is All-Witness.
Translation of: Ayah 55, Surat AlAhzab. (33:55)
* The list of persons Muslim women may appear in front of, while being modestly dressed. (Refer to Surat AlNoor, Ayah 31)
Note: Remember the status of Prophet Muhammad's wives was different from any other women's. (in Ayat 32-34 in Surat AlAhzab)
Words: La Junaha = No blame, Shaheeda = All-Witness.
Q: Where can a woman remain for a year when her Muslim husband dies?
A: And those who become dead among you and leave behind wives as a direction for their wives a provision for temporary enjoyment for a year without driving them out (from the house) but if they leave then no blame on them in what kindness they do to themselves and Allah is AlMighty All-Wise.
Translation of: Ayah 240, Surat AlBaqarah. (2:240)
Words: Yutawaffawna = Become dead, Yatharouna = They leave behind, Wassiyatan = Direction - Will, Mata'an = Provision for temporary enjoyment - Sustenance, AlHawl = A year, Ma'rouf = Kindness.